A story of missed opportunities. Opportunities that once took all of our attention and made us believe we knew the answer. Beyond a shadow of a doubt there was a job offer, new life direction, or relationship waiting for us to take the bait.
All of us have doors open from time to time.
But something happens. When doors open for us we do the unexpected, we simply look through the doorway and then politely walk on.
When doors open
When I was young, passing up a chance to experience something new was difficult for me. My life has always been driven by curiosity. For this reason the unknown was a way for me to learn something about myself and the world around me. Often times my family and friends call me the “jack of all trades and master of none.”
What I didn’t learn very quickly was that as doors open, others close and even more open. Simply put, there are going to be opportunities to move in a different direction that won’t be in line with your current life path. Rest easy. For the duration of this article I’m going to put myself in a position to call BS on any doors I see.
Door stories manifest from daily opportunities for change to very large life altering experiences. For example, a colleague that you may not come into contact with often invites you out to lunch. Door. Who knows? This could be the beginning of a great new friendship.
When speaking with a family member recently he shared a story of when he may have very well turned down the possibility of becoming a professional pilot. As a young man he took great interest into flying airplanes and spent a period of his life learning to fly. His ambitious self, being the hard working man he was, maintained a job while attending school full time.
One afternoon after returning from a flight lesson he was asked by the owner of a number of aircraft whom he rented from to assist him in flying a larger plane to another location only a few hours away since it was getting late and he wanted to rest on the way back. “Don’t worry, I’ll walk you through flying it back home.” Door.
Now to add a bit of spice to the story let’s look at what happened at this pivotal moment. He was scheduled to work that evening and requested time off. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that he wasn’t given a break. Doing the right thing, he decided to go to work instead. This is one of those instances that I spoke of where we walk right past an open door in favor of something else.
Was this the right decision? Yes. He made an education choice based on the information he knew at the time. Does he regret his decision? No. The bottom line here is that he wouldn’t be happy and where he is today without the course of events that took place.
Everyone has a door story
Just because there’s a door doesn’t mean you have to follow it or even look back on the ones you didn’t follow. Take as many opportunities as possible but don’t be too hard on yourself for passing one up.
“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” - Milton Berle